When Twitter Ignited Because The Boy Scouts Were Going To Allow Females

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Twitter is aflame with the latest controversy and, as usual, I have to take a closer look.

NBC News posted an article where it states that: “Boy Scouts Will Admit Girls, Allow Them to Earn Eagle Scout Rank”  and Twitter folk shared it.

I saw tweets, comments and watched people become progressively more and more outraged at the thought of boy scouts knitting Pink-pussy hats, all the while, I felt that something was off with the story.

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A quick search on “Boy Scouts” didn’t help much – all I got was very similar titles and photos of “manly” little boys in uniform.  Now I had to read the articles.  It didn’t take long to see that something was indeed off with the story but it was not the journalist’s fault (this time) Most outlets made it clear that girls ~could be admitted to Cub Scout dens but that those dens would be single-gender.

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I decided to look more into the Boy Scouts of America.  Yes, I found a lot of controversy but also found something else – they already have female inclusive programs called Venturers, program for the older kids.

 

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Yes, the program has been around for a while and, no, they do not seem to knit pink pussy hats.  Friends, I believe that this whole controversy may be due to two things:

  1. The Boy Scouts of America is a business and needs to prop a sagging membership.
  2. We allow ourselves a knee jerk reaction without reading the article

I hope this helps relieve some stress from the few of you that will read this article.

 

References:

https://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/boy-scouts-will-admit-girls-allow-them-earn-eagle-scout-n809836

http://www.foxnews.com/us/2017/10/11/boy-scouts-to-admit-girls-to-cub-scouts.html

http://www.latimes.com/nation/la-na-boy-scouts-girls-20171011-story.html

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/nathan-greenberg/why-i-still-wont-put-my-s_b_7963582.html

http://www.latimes.com/nation/la-na-boy-scouts-evolution-2017-story.html

http://www.scouting.org/scoutsource/Venturing.aspx

http://www.venturing.org/

http://www.summitbsa.org/venturingfest/

http://www.venturing.org/history.html

 

 

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Our Shark Infested Waters And The People Who Feed You To Them

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I first published this essay in LinkedIn, back in June 2017.  I’ve decided to republish because of the Weinstein controversy – I see so many accounts rightfully indignant against that man and his associates without stopping to think how they have contributed to protect online predators themselves.

— I love the Internet. I love to catch glimpses of other countries through Google Earth, have access to scholarly journals through JStor, read books, stay up to date on news and most of all, shop online, however, over the years it has become clear that the Internet is shark infested waters.

Contrary to what people believe, scams do not happen quickly. It may take years for a predator to establish a network and run scams on people.  They befriend people online to get personal information such as, email address, family member’s names, places visited, work history – anything that will help them impersonate you. They also “corrupt” people – they lure married people into online romances or other compromising conversations. Scammers are after money or ways to launder money. They “test” people to see if they can use the person. If the person refuses their romantic advances, refuses to provide intimate photos, it is difficult to extract personal information from the person, or she blocks the predator, he “blacklists” you.

The predator will share to his followers that you are a “difficult” person and begin to slander you. The followers may or may not be part of the predator’s scams but they will certainly spread malicious gossip against you. Why? Because the predator “earned” their trust.

If you belonged to a group, all of sudden you will notice other members become distant and some may even block you. You may become a pariah overnight. The scammers want to run you off their network. If you are a strong, independent person and expressed doubts about the scammer, him and his accomplices will immediately set to destroy your reputation.

How is it possible for just one person to create all that chaos? Scammers have many fake profiles in several social media sites. They have learned about places, behavior, language, mannerism from other people so they can “become” several different characters online. You may believe that you speak to several different people but it is the same person, testing you.

They test your loyalty. How so loyalty? Why would anyone be loyal to a scammer, you ask? They become your best friends online and best friends do not talk about other friends, correct? Best friends do not listen to gossip about their friends, correct? Scammers isolate you while giving you the impression that you belong to a group.

These predators attack several demographics – young, mature, elderly they do not care. Even though these people may come across as the most pious, they are true sociopaths. The one thing in common that all victims have is loneliness and many hours spent online in social media sites.

All scammers follow a similar pattern: friendship, trust, appeal to good nature, ask for help, test corruptibility level, draw into a corrupted world, use as a source of funds or as a mule to launder money. If the person cannot be corrupted, then they use their network of scammers and other victims drawn into the “dark side” to cut off the difficult person.

Finally, scammers are smart in the sense that they also surround themselves of respectable people, that is, people in positions of authority with good reputation. Scammers are models of behavior around those people so that if anyone wants to expose them, the person with good reputation will vouch for them.

In conclusion, the Internet has become a mirror of the real world. There are good people but, for the most part, a lot of places and people to avoid. Be careful whom you trust online. Never, ever disclose absolutely any personal information to anyone that is not verified a “real person” It is best to keep irl (In Real Life) friends separate from online friends and, just like in the bricks and mortar world, if it sounds too good to be true, it’s probably not good at all for you. Visit the IC3 website to read more about how these online scammers are being fought or to file a tip yourself: https://www.ic3.gov/

Never allow anyone to intimidate you.—-

 

I Struggle With Yom Kippur This Year

Below is the traditional Yom Kippur message and I find that I cannot post it with a clear heart.  “To those I may have wronged…” but what if those people wronged me first?

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I make an effort to not offend the innocent.  If I perceive that I have come across as insensitive or offense, I apologize immediately.  I have absolutely no problem accepting responsibility for my actions, even if my error was unintentional.

No, I struggle this year because those who are angry at me were supposed to be allies but they sided with a criminal who swore that he would make me die day by day.  This was over a year ago and I believed that I had left that situation behind.  The issue refuses to go away.

The criminal was exposed and he deactivated his account.  He ran but his minions and other fake accounts remain.  I had warned him, back on January 2016, that I saw what he did to women and that I would report him to the FBI, if I ever got proof.  Of course he denied it.

I tested him, I went along with his game and loaned him money.  He re-payed his debt to me but I would have nothing to do with him again.

While I had tried to protect the patriots against him, they worked with the criminal to have my account suspended.  They blocked me out of groups, slandered me and scared people against befriending me.  They chose to believe a foreigner, whose identity they could not verify, over a US Army veteran.

I have a VA rating for PTSD in addition to injuries.  I absolutely loved the Army and always felt pride to be able to defend this country and protect its citizens.  The Army didn’t give me PTSD –  people in the Army did.

Over two decades ago, I stood by myself when everyone turned their backs on me.  I drove myself to the hospital, in labor and then raised my son by myself.  No “live-in boyfriends” nothing – truly by myself.  Stubbornness and faith carried me through.

Last year’s Twitter situation reminded me of those years and brought a lot of sadness back.  Worst part was to see how the criminal used my rating against me and Patriots agreed with him.  I was called “mentally unstable”  I have a rating of PTSD, for goodness sake, do you think people get that because they’re happy all the time?!?  Of course I’m going to have a nervous breakdown in my past!!  I may write about how that happened sometime.

The point is that I cannot ask forgiveness from people who hate me because I did not die or I did not go away.  The criminal is back under another account and he is moving  to try to befriend Patriot females.   Remember that man scammed women of several thousand dollars.

The insane, truly stupid thing is that those who supported him before continue to try to turn people against me.  They have looked for anything to criticize me, such as,  at one time I posted rock music, then switched to Jewish music – I’m on a journey…I’m learning…I’m discovering…I am not a boring person, deal with it.

So…here is my Yom Kippur 2017 message:

To those who took actions against me, if you are still angry or fearful, may I suggest you look into a mirror to find the source.  I wish you luck.  When I raised my hand, many years ago, I swore to uphold the Constitution and protect you.  The oath does not require me to put up with your crap. 

To the rest of you, please forgive me when I have come across as careless, my “drive-by” group visits, or failure to express gratitude for your friendship.

To those I have helped, I wish I could do more. 

To those who have helped me, may G-d shower you with blessings.  Your support means a lot to me. 

To those I could not help, please forgive me, I’ll try to do better.

G’mar Hatimah Tovah. 

References: 

Yom Kippur Without Guilt,  On Memory, Remorse and Returning:  http://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/3793398/jewish/Yom-Kippur-Without-Guilt.htm